by Tracey Paleo, Gia On The Move
This weekend everyone whose been looking for love in all the WRONG places will finally get some relief and an excellent helping hand from Melanie Mar, Featured Life Coach on Housewives of Beverly Hills Life and Co-Owner of Millionaire’s Club International Matchmaking Agency (with Pattie Stanger), a self proclaimed Love-a-holic when it comes to finding the right woman to fit the right man.
You will have to go no further than The Love Event taking place at, The Sheraton Gateway at LAX this Saturday and Sunday (April 21-22). Super keyed up for women to learn about how to get or keep the relationship of their dreams a world-wide team of female and male celebrity experts are offering their services and advice in earnest.
Melanie, who is also a dedicated afternoon tea and crumpets, fashionista Brit turned Angeleno is one of the many professionals set to speak at the two day Love ‘affair’, graciously got on the phone with me yesterday and talked a little bit about being a sort of uber beautiful turnkey solution for wealthier singles, mostly men, who really need a helping hand occasionally in finding the woman or man of their dreams.
So what do you love about The Love Event this weekend?
They brought me in to talk about fashion and how to attract a man. I do style and image makeovers so I’m am glad to be talking about that. But I am happy to be a part of it because it’s known as The Love Event geared for women and empowering to women. It’s a nice event. When you take away the money and beauty you have your integrity and character. The people who are coming are regular people looking for love – looking to find a mate. I’m not going to be talking to wealthy people. I’ll be talking to normal people. I’m here to celebrate love.
Why do people come to you in the first place and what do they really want? And what exactly happens in this situation? Especially with your millionaire men?
My entire existence is spent managing people’s expectations. When you have money or beauty you think you can have it all. There is always someone with more. For me it’s lots of things. I turn clients away if I think they won’t listen and are not willing to receive. If you come to me, you’re looking for love. If you are looking for playtime – no. You want something serious, a relationship for quality not quantity. But there is always that underlying notion with a client that who he is looking for has to be this or that. It’s a lot of, “I don’t know if you will date women that height.” Sometimes, it’s exasperating.
How do you handle that?
Last night [for instance] I had to tell a potential client, ” Go away and think about what you really want. You are setting your sights too high.”
Then how DO you get your clients to “come around” to your idea of finding a mate for them?
I just say, let’s work with what we’ve got. When the match-making kicks in I am constantly trying to say, “Do you want to be in a relationship? If you do you are going to have to change things to be more open. It’s about modification and compromise. If you continue with the same thought patterns you will be single forever.
What do you think makes for a successful match?
Three things – Compatibility, Communication, Chemistry.
What’s your special gift?
I’m certified in transactional analysis in date coaching and matching. I coach my clients through pre-dating, preparing clients to start dating or during. Everything I do with my clients is geared for love and making or sustaining relationships. My background actually is fashion. It’s my first love personally.
What are these guys looking for? Can any woman really attract a millionaire? What does it really take?
Men are visual of course, that’s the initial thing that any man wants. What she looks like. Is she beautiful? For a woman I always say you simply have to make what God gave you the best you can possibly be. It means looking feminine. Get a mani-pedi, put on makeup, coif your hair. Let’s start off with what you’ve got and make the most of it. Creating a wardrobe that really suits you. Don’t reveal everything. Keep a little mystery.
The men I encounter want a lady who looks like a lady. Someone who he can take into any room and who can talk and socialize. He doesn’t want to have to worry about her saying something or doing something awkward. These men feel like they can have that.
Is LA different from anywhere else when it comes to finding the right mate?
In a cosmopolitan city like Los Angeles, it is more intense. We are surrounded by beauty. There’s always a bigger better deal.
At the end of the day, what’s the real pay-off for you, investing your self, your time, your insights and experience entirely into helping other people find love?
I admit it’s exhausting. I often feel so emotionally drained because I take on so much. But for me, I go above and beyond. I am always the person saying if you need me call me or text me any time of the day. I truly care from my heart. I am heart-driven. I can’t bear to hear about anyone breaking up or divorcing. I see both sides of the coins. You know, no one is perfect.